Last night and this morning I read Dark Matter by Blake Crouch. Rarely do I binge read a thriller, but this one just grabbed me in the first chapter and wouldn’t let go.
Heather was out with a girlfriend so I popped a bottle of wine and devoured this thing as if my life depended on it.
The themes range from quantum physics to identity psychology to love and relationships.
It’s a mind bending thrill ride through the eyes of Jason, a man who seemingly has it all, then has everything taken from him by someone very VERY close to him.
The bulk of the book is the exciting tale of Jason traveling to hell and back to reclaim the life that was stolen from him.
If you’re looking for an entertaining book to read over the holidays, grab a copy of Dark Matter.
You won’t believe who stole the lead character’s life from him! The underlying science stuff is really cool too.
Search Engine Optimization (SEO) is one of those topics that can seem like a black box.
There’s so much information about it and so many competing opinions that it’s hard to know what’s correct and what’s irrelevant.
Sometimes I have a sense that the SEO mafia are intentionally creating confusion to drive us, credit card in hand, into its consultants’ clutches. :-)
That’s why I like this article by Amanda Clark on B2C called 6 Factors That Help Your Website Rank Well.
It contains strait forward advice that the average person can understand and use and sound insight into how Google ranks content confirmed by Google itself.
Check it out here. Enjoy!
I started my new website AdamDudley.me in September.
I committed to a daily - usually weekdays only - blog post and later added video. I'm amazed by the results on my traffic rank globally and in the US. See below.
I attribute this trend to the daily posting and sharing habit. That and I'm using a marketing system called Fast Forward designed by two genius marketer friends of mine, Travis Miller and Jimmy Vee from Gravitational Marketing.
Alexa is owned by Amazon.com and provides web traffic data and analytics. You can install the Alexa tool on your browser tool bar and look at the traffic rank for millions of websites.
In yoga as in life there are moments and situations that are uncomfortable, even agonizing, that we’d prefer not to be in.
If you’ve ever taken a yoga class, you may have encountered certain postures that you hated — I’ve been there many times.
Almost every yoga practitioner has certain poses that they dislike, but because they’re part of whatever sequence of movements being performed, we do our best to accept what is and be okay with what’s happening.
If we don’t, we huff, puff, whine, and complain, but in the end that doesn’t change what is.
So if you’re upset about who was elected President of the United States and the appointments he’s making, take heart because you're not alone.
You and a lot of other people prefer that things hadn’t turned out this way, but they did and now to preserve your own sense of equanimity you’ve got to find a way to be okay with what is. Otherwise, you’ll lose your mind.
My approach is to use a really wide lens. The United States of America is 238 years old. It will be 242 in four years. 4 years is 1.65% of 242 years.
That is a very small sliver of the life of our country and I’m certain that if you looked at our entire history, you’d agree that we’ve been through and overcome some extremely dark and terrifying times.
So if you're not happy with the outcome of the election and you get the yoga metaphor, imagine that this is going to be a tough pose - let's call it Trump Pose - for you during the next four years. You're going to have to find a way to be okay with it to preserve your own sanity.
If you don't get the yoga metaphor, know that this is just going to be one of those uncomfortable experiences in life that you must find a way to be okay with or you're going to keep on suffering.
(P.S. Being okay with something doesn't necessarily mean you don't take action or express your displeasure. It just means that you do so while preserving your own sense of equanimity.)
My first job was at a Burger King in Orlando, Florida, which is where I grew up.
I learned a valuable lesson.
There are easier and more pleasant ways of earning minimum wage.
After six weeks of hosing and scrubbing down the grill past midnight, I found a better job working at a movie theater.
This job was so awesome that I stuck with it for over four years, the longest I’ve held any job.
Here’s why it was so awesome.
1. FREE MOVIES and popcorn for me and my friends. Common! What could be better for a teenager? Sometimes we’d even get to watch new movies before the public when the prints came in early!
2. The inmates ran the asylum. At this movie theater the managers liked to hide upstairs where they couldn’t be bothered. So we, the employees, pretty much ran the joint. It was almost impossible to get fired if you’d been there a couple years.
3. After the last movies of the night were in, we’d arrange the stanchions and ropes such that a wrestling ring was formed. There were some incredible, hardcore matches and the managers upstairs and the patrons in the theaters were none the wiser.
4. Doug the popcorn guy. This was a dude - and he was the ultimate Dude - that literally got paid to come in during the day and pop a bunch of popcorn before the evening rush. He’d bring a portable radio and a mellow high and he’d just sit and pop all day.
5. After a couple years, they taught me how to string up the projectors and run the projection room. That was a blast, unless a film slid off the platter or got scrunched up in the projector's gears. Then you’d have a real mess to clean up and raincheck tickets to hand out. Regardless, being up there in the projection room made me feel like I was a Master of the Universe.
What was your first job and what did you learn? What was your favorite job and why? Find this post on my Facebook page and post a comment there.
1. Don’t take yourself so seriously
Wayne Dyer called it Rule #6. Don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Remember, you’re one in billions of people on this planet. We all have the same basic needs and desires. We all arrive at the same finality. Society may tell you that because of your achievements or status, you’re special. That’s a very, if not the most, superficial layer of reality. You’re just a person, trying to get along and thrive like the rest of us, in the best possible way you can.
2. Laugh more
Laughing is relaxing and naturally brings us into the present moment. Practice laughing more. Personally, I try to watch or listen to something amusing every day. It lightens me. When I’m socializing and someone makes me laugh, I pay attention and try to laugh fully, noticing how it brings me into the present moment. Enjoy these moments. They’re very limited.
3. Open your heart
Practice opening your heart up to other people, points of view, places, and things. Take in ALL experiences, not just the ones you prefer. Don’t resist. If a person or situation pisses you off, great. There’s good in there somewhere, even if it’s teaching you more about yourself and what within you causes that reaction.
4. Explore your creative side
All of us are creative. Even if you’ve decided that you’re not creative, there’s a seed inside you just waiting to be expressed. Surely you’ve felt drawn to or participated in some form of creative expression in the past. Maybe you shut down that part of yourself when you got busy with work or life or decided that being creative was just for children. Reengage with your creative side. Personally, I’ve found joy in cooking, writing, and mixing house music.
5. Play more
If you find it difficult to get on board with adults playing like kids, then at least embrace a regular movement practice. Our bodies are designed for movement. If you don’t use it you lose it. Notice the difference between people that stay physically fit and those that choose not to. The difference in ease of movement and youthfulness is almost always obvious to the casual observer. I dig yoga. You might too.
Today I wanted to take a moment to share something about the nonprofit I serve, The Give Back Yoga Foundation.
November is National Entrepreneurs’ Month in addition to a dozen other themes including Give Back Yoga in November.
(I’ve taken to calling it Yovember :-) and the idea is entirely my own.)
Yoga is a powerful tool and life practice for learning self-regulation, which helps us to manage our life better.
The practice of yoga does this by training and activating the parasympathetic nervous system, which is the rest and digest system as opposed to the sympathetic nervous system, the fight for flight system.
That’s why many long-time yoga practitioners seem so chilled out. We’ve put in many hours on the mat and its affected our nervous system in a positive way.
That’s also why yoga is especially useful for healing people who have suffered traumas. Whether it be war, abuse, addictions, illnesses, or disorders.
The Give Back Yoga Foundation exists to support and fund yoga teachers in all traditions who want to bring this healing practice to underserved and under-resourced populations.
This year during the month of November over 300 yoga teachers and studios across the country are holding donation classes to support Give Back Yoga.
I attended one last night at Firefly Yoga in Central Florida and it was a beautiful experience.
You can learn more about The Give Back Yoga Foundation and its transformative work here.
Enjoy this interview I did with Rod Ferrier from Create More Business Now.
How do I change the lives of my clients?
The text message in the screenshot at left that I received from a client recently says a lot.
Beyond the practical stuff like setting goals, crafting plans, and providing resources I help my clients achieve the the Five Essential Cs of Forward Progress.
You might think these feelings or states of being aren’t as valuable as the practical stuff but they are and in a BIG way.
Sometimes my clients get into states of feeling confused, unconfident, uncertain, out of control, and overwhelmed.
It’s difficult to take action in the face of these feelings and sometimes the only thing that can break you free is patient outside perspective from someone like me.
Without another mind and pair of eyes on the problems you face, you might spend countless hours wallowing in misery and making no progress unnecessarily.
Don’t let this be you.
Find a coach, mentor, or peer group that resonates with you and use them to ensure you don’t stay stuck in any of these disempowering states.
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